Ok, this is very much a different kind of blog, more of a public announcement or a statement really, I have said many times, and it is true, I don’t often share My personal life, however on this occasion I am choosing to for many reasons, not all of them about Me but most are. Well it is My blog after all…..
Over 3 decades ago I met My soulmate and we started our journey through life together and what a journey it has been, we started out vanilla but within a very short period of time became so much more than that, it started with us attending a swingers club that also had a BDSM element, they say the two do not mix but I for one very much disagree with that statement! To keep what is a very long story readable we fell in love with BDSM and I very much fell in love with having other men in My bed, this in time was Tony A.K.A Stubbz first contract to Me and as it turns out has been the basis of our relationship ever since, the contract was a simple one he gifted Me My freedom, his loyalty and his chastity, along with the pledge of no matter how hard he found My wants and needs he would stand with Me and stand by Me, I took his pledge and embraced My freedom and I still do to this day…….I have no intention of telling you about the many men I have coupled with, this is not about the notches on the bed post more about a beautiful gift between two soul mates in a relationship that endures and continues to grow. Look at the photo above, I am around 26 he around 31, he’d confessed his fetish for nylon’d feet and I gave the right to worship mine at will, it seemed a fair exchange for the gift of freedom he had given me…….As a natural dominant the relationship in amongst the fetishes & sexual dalliances, has always been female led! I love the very bones of the man, I never question his support, every single day he makes Me feel like his Queen…..
So 2 plus decades ago, I last counted 23 years, after much playing Guest Mistress in clubs, doing DoubleDom days with Professional Mistresses I had come to know and much club play experience not to mention a continuous amount of home play I became a professional dominatrix, DominaSara was born, I have had an amazing life as a ProDom, I really have, I am so very grateful I have made a living from what is to Me a lifestyle, to this day every time I look at My bank statement and recall the clients who have been to see Me I still pinch Myself and feel lucky and blessed.
I did along the way specialise in Medical play and along came Chris A.K.A Emenac I am renowned for My aftercare, always on My time, not paid for time, nobody is rushed out of the door at My place, always a coffee and a biccy, maybe a tea and some choccy, it’s a duty of care to make sure when they leave Me they are safe to drive and back down or is it up from their sub space, it’s also a time for us to get two know each other better, sessions are always so much better when you know and understand the client, I liked Chris from the get go, funny, handsome, a big man, I like big men, and very vocal about political things that probably he didn’t ought to be so vocal about, very much like My Stubbz, a couple of times over the years I thought about taking him for My own, but I let him be, I had Stubbz and a long term lover several FB’s and life was good, over the years 15/16 of them we got to know each other very well, I got to like him very much and then he let Me know his wife had left, having missed him between the time he finished with his last girlfriend and met the lady who became his wife I took My opportunity and decided to take him as My own. He made it very easy although to be honest he had little to no chance anyway, I wanted him, and I understand him, all the tools a gal needs to take control! I had also known him long enough to see him fail time and again in vanilla relationships so knew he needed Me as much as I wanted him.
So after a few conversations with Emenac, a few dinners, I made My offer and he accepted, I then went on to tell Stubbz what I wanted, I knew it was a big ask but also knew he would never let Me down, he has bless him never in 30 years failed Me, no matter how much I whip him, cut him, kick him, no matter how many times I am unfaithful to him, his whole life is built around pleasing Me and keeping his pledge to stand with Me and stand by Me. As expected he asked many questions, then dropped the Ma’am and asked Me seriously if this is what I wanted, I told him yes and he said with much reluctance he would be supportive of it! He has to his credit been just that and has helped Emenac by sharing his vast knowledge of Me with him, I know him so well I know he was very unhappy the first few months but hid it well and endured for Me, he has now as time marches on found some peace with it, I do think in time full acceptance will come I know how hard it must be and I feel so loved by his actions…..As they say actions speak louder than words!
So both submit to Me, the power of what are in fact two very strong & powerful Alpha males who choose to be Beta to Me is a beautiful thing. I have had them marked as My property, Stubbz right across the back of his hand, Emenac a little more discreetly……..Again to keep a very long story readable I won’t go into the detail of developing the relationship but some 10 months back we all moved in together and became a unit, a truple, a triad, there seem to be many names for it. Not only is it working out it gets better with each passing day and I am happy, beyond happy in fact. I love them both, It is quite amusing they are both the same but both very different, they are all and everything I want. When I took Emenac he pledged to me also, to revolve his life around Me, to put me first in every thought to action he has, to enhance My life physically, emotionally, sexually and financially….He is doing well, mostly very well! There is training to come, but for now I am very pleased.
He is currently breaking himself and his belt in to being chaste to Me 24/7-365, then come other things, one step at a time, I have mentioned difficulties for Stubbz, It is also a big ask for Emenac too, For Emenac it must be hard, he is coming into not just a 30 year relationship but Stubbz and I are tight as a couple, we always have been, not to mention being entwined with several businesses together, I can only imagine how hard that must be, That he struggles through the difficult parts fills My heart with pride and time passes so we will have much memory of our own, the love will grow and with that along comes security & acceptance and even just a short time in I feel and know this will be so, Emenac is very special to Me and his addition into My life has made My life move on to what is as near perfection as I have ever experienced……having never been a one man woman I am truly happy! My Boyz as I call them are My all and everything!
How did it all come about……We went to the races at Leicester recently and shared a table with a family, (an adult family) eventually they asked what are you all to each other and we gave them a version of the truth, I don’t think any of the three of us was overly happy about it, this is what happens when you create a pack, they become defensive and protective, we all felt a statement was in order so no more hiding! Emenac & Stubbz will both wear a wedding band engraved and I will wear a large stoned ring and two smaller rings, one above and one below, one saying Stubbz the other saying Emenac, you can see the picture below.
Quite spooky I asked both the boyz independently what they would like engraved on their rings and both said **Property of Ma’am** they both address Me as Ma’am at all times so quite funny when My Mum comes to stay to see them struggling to use My given name, anyway I digress, no more! in future should anyone ask I will tell them these are My two husbands if asked generally then we’ll tell whoever is asking we are all together in a relationship, I am very proud of My Boyz, I love them, they love Me and I will not and do not want to hide that, so that is the statement…..
Thanks for reading Dr. Sara x x